When you increase your self-awareness and your emotional intelligence, it pays dividends in both your personal and professional life.

For example, pay attention to what you think and say – all of the time. 

What you say, both to yourself and to others, will determine how you continue to think and act. 

You’re basically programming yourself for your future activities, which is why it’s critical to always monitor yourself. 

When you do, you might be surprised by what you learn.

I know when I started monitoring everything I think and say, I was surprised at how many of my thoughts were negative. I had no idea I was being negative, and in fact thought I was positive most of the time.

But by monitoring my thoughts, and then cancelling every negative thought with a positive one, I was able to greatly reduce this bad habit. Before I knew it, I was a happier and accomplishing more, with less effort.

Increase your emotional intelligence starting with these five points:

1 – Reduce your negative emotions so they don’t overwhelm you and affect your judgment.

2 –Learn to stay cool and manage stress, so that you can be assertive rather than reactive.

3 – Express difficult emotions when necessary, so that you can set your boundaries and let people know where you stand. 

4 – Stay proactive and not reactive when dealing with a difficult or challenging person.

5 – Learn to bounce back from adversity. As Michael Jordan famously said, 
“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”


Please feel free to post your thoughts and comments below….

    2 replies to "An Emotional Intelligence Tune-Up"

    • David Wakeman

      Hello Jonathan,

      I like what you have to say here. It’s important to check our own negative behavior and not allow it to direct our day. Start each morning with thankfulness. I like to begin by thinking of all the things I am thankful as I start my day and then when something sets me in the wrong direction, I stop and think about what I am thankful at that moment.

      Positive thoughts begets positive behavior.

      Thanks for sharing.


      • Jonathan

        Very true David! I aim ti use thankfulness and gratitude throughout the day, and try to avoid news bulletins at the start of the day.

        Best wishes,


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